Loving when its hard

Not everyone has that first love and marriage or textbook experience. For many its a 2nd or 3rd or simply a long friendship before love arrives. For others… it is first time love.

Does any one of those situations guarantee a great relationship?

Hmm no!

It rather adds various tensions as well as reassurance in the language of the love. Like a tug of war. Nothing is perfect. ~No relationship. We have to work for it and try to find that common ground. These situations whereby a partner is controlling and fearful, angry or hopeless, needy or aloof is really working out of their language. Perhaps needing to be heard better.

I’ll be honest I battle with the peak of tension in our home. It can get pretty horrible and I have had some very dark moments trying to process it and I don’t believe that is the right thing. It’s definitely the wrong thing.

How I choose to take this relationship, despite my past and how he should take it , despite his clear past; is somewhat a joinery masterpiece of two same woods, regardless of which forest we came from.

Today this post is written from a raging argument first thing in the morning. There can be no right or wrong, in one persons eye we just tried but in the others we failed.

Failure is the beast in a marriage. Don’t entertain the beast.

One thing I can say is that if you are not seeing eye to eye, there is a root of something hindering the ‘clean up’ process of arguments. The little root issue peaks its head out in the most tense situation and that has to be addressed… preferably not in front of the kids. haha.

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What does peace look like? Its not always roses. Its not a picture of no arguments, even heated ones. Its a resolution of unity. It is agreeing to disagree and not to ride the beast the other is putting forward. Its making up and honestly hearing the other person instead of trying to justify your own… Ouch thats hard right.

Peace, to me, is holding the same banner even if you don’t agree on how it was made.

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Personal Touch

 

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You see there is no way I can blog without bring in the personal, family touch. I’m not changing this blog to mom blogging or parental blogging. I am however just going to be me and what I am is what you see. So I will be sharing some insight on what has become me. A little of the learning moments because one thing I have learnt since becoming a mom is that we are not alone. Some else out there can relate to this curve in your life called parenthood. I would love to master parenting as creatively as possible. To find those moments in the day to outwork the creativity and not get stuck in a rut.

Therefore, I would like to share those insights here on the blog.

I lost ALL my followers 4 years ago when I couldn’t renew my URL. I’m hoping to get a chance to renew it again and hope to get all the followers back … the difference is I will be starting over. But hey isn’t that just like life? Sometimes you get a curve ball … So you have to start over and that’s honestly ok.

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Flowers = Happiness

There has always been a sincere love for the garden. Not in a way that sets me up to try to be or have the best manicured garden around (Although my husband and I did want to display the-best-verge-ever a few years ago! ha ha) But there is this sense of freedom and joy I get from leaves, flowers, the smell of them combined and also the plants that survive my home. I absolutely adore plants and what they bring to a space, to my space. Its that silent inner joy and contentment seeing plants or flowers become their own and show off their stuff.

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My favourite thing to do it pick awesome leaves from the garden and give them to someone for their home … makes me think I should follow in my mothers foot steps and become a florist … perhaps.

Though my dream is bigger. It’s a store with plants and interior inspiration.. the very thing this blog once had  a dream of I’m still wanting to create. But in the physical. 

So, this is where Aloe Lovely started. My very own Flower and interiors store.

Stay tunes for more … ♥

Ozzie LOVE – Part2

Oh my goodness I love looking at various homes and what they bring to the table… Just think about it- We have so many people living in this world and they all have different tastes and personalities that sometimes get reflected in their homes. And here at CS we love looking at homes! My favourite place to find inspiration and of course the best of Ozzie homes is at The Design Files.

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The one thing the Ozzies love doing is bringing the outside in! I have posted these before but seems as I have not blogged in a while, I thought I would recap on the old favourites and share them again. Timeless ideas and beautiful inspiration ♥

 

 

 

 

 

Kids Rooms

Hello everyone. Its been a long, long time hasn’t it? I’m hoping to be with you guys a lot more now and to show you there very things that make my heart tick and that make my life easier in life- now that I have 2 kids and a busy household.

One of the places I stream my inspiration from is HomeToLove from in Oz and NZ. Their simple way of interior styling and choices are always a delight. I’ve always been a fan of Ozzie style, if you’ve known my blog post in the past you cant deny my loyalty to them.

So today is no different. I wanted to show you a few great ideas for kids rooms. All pics from a gorgous homes featured on HomeToLoveOZ.

They are all very different from each other . Who says you need to keep the same vibe in every room? And who says it has to be full of fluff?

All pictures below inspired me because they are practical but took time to bring in the child’s character and that’s what it’s all about. I know that rooms dont always look this perfect (Why not?! ha ha) But you can get the vibe and you can receive the charm of the home owners heart ♥♥♥

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